Mr. Toodle-Loo

Now that I've told people about this blog, it's been receiving a few hits. General verdict seems to be that I have alot of time on my hands if I can write this much, which is just a polite way of saying that it's crap! I can't argue too much, some of it has been pretty boring, but hopefully I will improve that as the weeks go by. It's still early days - only 10 blogs so far, so still time for this blog to get better.

Anyway, hope you all had a nice weekend. I tried a new tactic of not getting up in the morning to eat before sunrise. It worked quite well, it meant that I got some proper sleep and I was able to manage until sunset without food quite well. The secret seems to be to make sure I stuff myself at dinner time and that carrys me through to the end of the next day. Tried the same technique today, and so far it seems to be ok.

What a disappointing result for Liverpool over the weekend. What a shocking decision by the linesman. The goalkeeper did not handle the ball outside the area (as you can see for yourself below) and the linesman was in an awful position to make the call. It was an absolute disgrace. However, Liverpool played extremely poorly and already the Premiership looks out of their grasp. Six points behind Chelsea and at the moment they don't seem good enough to catch up. Not only will Chelsea have to lose at least twice, Liverpool will have to go on a long unbeaten run and I don't see that happening.



Much has been made of the fact that the Liverpool manager, Rafael Benitez, has not named an unchanged lineup for over 90 games (94 it currently stands at), but people tend to ignore what he has achieved in that time; namely the Champions League and the F.A. Cup. Therefore, you could argue that it is in the Premiership where a settled lineup is needed in order to give a team the best chance to win. I guess I've got to keep on waiting for that hope to become reality. Just one Premiership title in my lifetime, that would be enough! As I am writing about hopes, I might as well mention that I hope that England will win the World Cup just once in my lifetime - but I guess one can hope for anything, doesn't mean it'll happen!

I think I've written enough about the football. My faffing about has returned, which means I can't be feeling too bad! After mentioning my blog to various people, the most interesting blog appears to be "Family Politics," from last Wednesday. It even received a comment, which I responded to, from someone I will simply call Mr. Toodle-Loo (mainly cause he signed off that way, and what better way to remind him of that) who I would like to write about today. I must admit that this is not a random thought but more a pre-planned one! But hey, it's my blog, I can do whatever I want, even if it's not advertised!!

Mr. Toodle-Loo is a very interesting character and that's a nice way of putting it! He is not a typical guy. He's what I call a girl's guy, a sensitive guy, a metrosexual! He gets on fabulously well with girls, to the extent that being friends with guys is a problem. For girls he is, trustworthy, sensitive, understanding, emotional etc, generally all the basic qualities that girls have and look for in their own girlfriends. For them he is the safe option. Someone they can trust, rely on and be reassured by.

All these qualities are infact very commendable, I wish I had some of them to a certain extent, but the problem lies in how to interact with him, because as I guy, I don't look for these qualities in my mates, infact they annoy me, so interaction becomes difficult. Guys look for a common theme in their mates, something that is easy to talk about such as football, movies, or even work, but these interests are lacking in Mr. Toodle-Loo. Guys want to have a laugh, chill out and play/watch the footie, but people like Mr. Toodle-Loo have difficulty in interacting with such guys because they are the complete opposite. Not every guy has the gift of being able to open up and talk about their feelings but there is only so much a guy will want to do that and that to, to another guy, so you can understand why it becomes difficult.

This is the main crux of why I have so much difficulty getting on with him. The qualities he has just frustrate me, add to that his irritating habit of making random noises, laughing like a cross between a gorilla and a banshee and pulling faces that sooner or later will get stuck in the wind, and it all combines to provide a great source of irritation.

Now, I know I sound harsh and uncompromising, but I thought I would descirbe these qualities as I see them and then focus on some positives. In order to succeed, trying to interact with him, effectively means trying to become a bit like him and try to talk about my feelings. This can sometimes be a good thing, because it changes the way I interact with him. Accepting that he will not become like a typical guy means that we can interact in different ways. I admit that sometimes I don't help myself with a severe lack of patience towards certain questions about the football or the computer for example, but I hope and need to change that. In a way I'm being unfair because I have friends myself who aren't into football or movies or the so-called "common themes," and yet I manage to get on well with them, but I guess it comes down to choice. I choose to get on with them because I can, whereas with Mr. Toodle-Loo I don't have that choice, I have to get on with him, because that's the nature of the relationship, and therefore it becomes more difficult.

The ironic thing is that he gets on with most people. However, being the cynical person that I can be, it's always the ladies in the family who go on about him and get on with him the most. The ladies always go on about how everything is quiet without him and how much they miss him. No guy in the family feels that way, but more importantly no-one else gets as irritated as I do and that is what needs to change.

Perhaps I should look at him as a friend whom I don't share the same interests with and therefore I have to adapt. Ignore the things that annoy me, and focus on what I can get on with. He does share some "common themes" and I should focus on that. At the end of the day (I can't believe I'm about to write this) but I do want to get on with him and I think it's about time I did. For that to happen things need to change. I'm willing to make an effort but I guess sometimes the way he behaves towards me puts me off and I feel it's pointless. Respect should be mutual and whilst mucking around and joking can be fun, I do feel he tends to cross the line a bit too much and that makes me feel like he doesn't respect me. I don' expect him to change but I would appreciate it if we both tried and maybe something better will come out of it. I've already proven that I can get on with people of his type, so thing should get better. Writing this all down has perhaps made me realise that. So I guess I'll take it from here.

He's anxiously waiting to read all this, so I look forward to his comments. It's actually easier to write this, than say this face to face, mainly because he'll go all sissy-like if we did it any other way! So I am going to leave it there and see what happens, (plus my hands are absolutely freezing because the room is strangely, very cold)! Mr. Toodle-Loo, hope you enjoyed the read! As for everyone else, well I am sure you know who Mr. Toodle-Loo is!

Take care all,
Thoughts just flow, when do they have to make sense?